Safe Dating

Safe and Successful Dating Comes with Rules

You must be very excited. This is a very courageous, and wonderful, personal journey you have decided to venture on, and there is a very real chance you will win your prize of life long love and companionship.

Yes, I know you will win your prize, and accomplish your goal because online dating doe’s attract so many terrific, wonderful and great looking sincere men and women, who are also seeking their own very special someone.

Now!  I want you to journey safely….I wish to impress upon you that Safe and Successful Dating Comes with Rules,  not only while dating online, but also just as important while dating offline, and this is your BIG NUMBER ONE RULE.

DATING JUDGMENT and NATURAL INSTINCTS

And this means always follow your own good sound judgment and instincts, and always be cautious..ALWAYS. Beware that it is possible that not everyone on the Internet is honest or truthful, and some may completely mis-represent themselves in their profiles. Perhaps some may even have lived a shady past life. Hey!, we all at one time or another in our lives have had that, ”this just doesn’t feel right”, or “do you believe that”, feeling. So if something  just doesn’t add up or feel right then you may want to take note of that inner feeling.

DATING with TRIGGERY and DECEIT

What should you watch out for? How about some of the following:

if you are asked for money or any request for financial assistance or,

if you feel avoidance and receive vague answers to fair questions or,

if you are prompted to go against your personal principals and ethics or,

if you are being pushed too quickly to enter into a close relationship beyond your present feelings or,

if normal conversation and stories are peppered with inconsistencies and sound too grandiose.

Well, these are but just a few examples of what you could encounter while dating online and offline, and I am sure you may have also come up with a few examples of your own to watch out for.

Ok, let’s move on and talk a little about YOU…Your Personal Information and that of Your Family.

PROTECT PERSONAL DATING INFORMATION

Major Internet Dating Services routinely monitor account activity, and investigates unusual occurrences, complaints, and inappropriate or falsified accounts. However they do not perform background checks when accounts are registered. Dating Service Sites place great emphases on your safety, and go to great lengths to protect you, and you should protect yourself too. Here are a few safe practices you may follow to protect yourself and your family’s identity.

Never post pictures of your children, and other family members with yours in your profile. Just post your own photo, and your pets photo too if you chose.

Keep your home and work telephone numbers private.

Keep your home and work address’s private.

Keep your email address private (use the Dating Services Email System).

While in casual conversation, never divulge where you are going to be (place) or time on a specific night.

In general …. stay cool … and stay private with your identity while you are checking out your potential mate.  

(Did you know that some Dating Services have secure telephone call services that allows you and your match to talk to each other without exchanging phone numbers).

Alright, here we are at that BIG MOMENT…Our First Safe Date.

OUR FIRST SAFE DATE

Thus far you have followed all of the rules, and your match and you want to meet. How do we go about it? Well, lets follow a few more rules.

You both mutually agree on where to meet (a busy public place), time (best around lunch time or early evening), and if it’s for coffee or luncheon and who is to pay (good to keep it easy with a option for more talk time) and (split the cost down the middle) it is also best not to consider more then a lite glass of wine with a lunch.

Use your own transportation (personal vehicle is good), or (be dropped off by a friend), etc. and make sure someone knows (where you are to be and with who). Never agree to travel together or to leave together on this first meeting.

On this first meeting follow the flow, protect your identity like your credit card, drivers licence, really any information that may trace you, just in case you decide that this match will not be leading anywhere past this meeting.

And if you both hit it off really well!!!  Stick with your rules, go home and dream on it, make contact again to have another SAFE DATE.

Always be courteous, pleasant and respectful with your online dating matches. Be honest, direct and polite and always treat them just like you would want to be treated.

Dating Concerns? If you have them you should report them by email to your Dating Service. They take every concern and complaints very seriously and every one of them will be investigated with appropriate follow up action.

Best Wishes with Safe Dating….Please